Emma Barnes
1 min readDec 28, 2022

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Could you imagine a white person saying to a Black person who speaks about their experience of racism, "your stories create your reality. I can help you."?
You'd rightly condemn such Karenish hubris.
And when that person said, "don't accuse me of privilege because I have these other marginalisations x, y and z", you could reasonably roll your eyes at their insouciance.
I'm a trans woman who's been down the road of self-pity and returned stronger. I didn't recover through a program of toxic positivity delivered by someone saying, "you make your own reality", though. I recovered by looking transmisogyny in the eye and learning to identify and protect my boundaries. I hope that other trans women reading this can recognise the gaslight of it: And that they can find their own path to safety. And I wish that profiteers like yourself could at least avoid empowering transphobes in their victim-blaming advertisements.

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Emma Barnes

Autistic, trans, survivor, abolitionist @friedkrill on Twitstagram